I have been in SLAA for a while now and a question new members ask me when they start coming to meetings is: ‘Will my life be as exciting as it was in the past when I was in active sex and love addiction?’
I remember asking myself the same question in early recovery as I also had a distorted view of reality. Now that I have a better perspective on reality my answer is usually something like this:
I do not find life to be exciting if I am a total mess, living in secrecy and I am lying. Life is not exciting either if I am unfaithful or jumping from one relationship to the other and hurting the people I interact with. How can infidelity, dishonesty, breaking promises and hurting people be exciting for a healthy person?
I also do not find watching porn and masturbating in secrecy, instead of having great sex with someone I love and care about, exciting. Is masturbating in secrecy in front of pixels and lying about it the epitome of excitement? I personally don’t think so.
A healthy, exciting life does exist after entering recovery and doing the work. I am feeling healthier and happier. I am more fit and I engage in healthy activities that provide excitement and personal satisfaction to me. I did not know that such a thing existed until I found it on the recovery path.
Embrace change, work hard, turn your life around and I am sure you will find an exciting new life yourself.
